Wendy Frashure Tresidder

Personal Transformation Coach in Hawaii

IFS Practitioner

All of We Podcast Co-Host

“It seems whatever the door, whatever our fear -be it love or truth or even the prospect of death - we all have this choice, again and again: avoiding that part of our house, or opening the door and finding out more about ourselves by waiting until what is dark becomes seeable."


— Mark Nepo

Hi! I am Wendy (she/her) and I want more!

And if you’re here, my sense is you do too. More love, play, sensuality, joy, awareness, honesty, connection and excitement. I want to be awake to my life at every moment and what I’ve learned through this wild, messy journey of being human is that in order to get more of those things, I also need more capacity to be with and love all of the messy, less desirable bits, my own and those of others. Spiritual teacher Adyashanti says that we are “forever being and forever becoming: already are and continuing to become more awakened.” And that’s why I’m here and that’s the wild ride I’d love to join you on!

I have had the amazing good fortune to get to do what I love for the last 20+ years, be in relationship with and grow with other humans and witness and guide and love and support them through all of the ups and downs and spirals. I use powerful healing modalities like IFS, SoulCollage, and the Somatica method to facilitate your growth, enhance sexuality and intimacy and deepen connections. 

My passion for our work together is deeply personal. Unfortunately for all of us, it’s usually the hardest things that help us grow the most and I have had my fair share of those—relational trauma, disordered eating, depression and anxiety, challenging twin birth, divorce and co-parenting, hormonal sensitivity, just to name a few. What I realized through my own inner work is that it is possible for these painful experiences to be portals to deep exploration and transformation and that there is a loving, compassionate, awake Self in all of us that’s always present.


I am here to help you find similar portals, in the context of your unique life. You don’t need to struggle alone. Together, we can find a way forward towards one beautiful, precious life that is meant to be deeply enjoyed by you.

 Entelechy is a Greek word that means the fullest realized essence of a thing, like an acorn becoming an oak tree. It is already an oak tree at every stage and there’s recognition of its beauty along the way, but it has the potential to become a bigger, more magnificent version of itself with conditions that allow it to grow and flourish.

One of my favorite words is “entelechy”.

Would you like some help with discovering your unique essence, the fullest realization of your sexual, sensual, creative, social, psychic, spiritual self?

  • are willing to engage in honest self-exploration

  • are interested in deepening connection with themselves and others

  • understand that transformation is a process not a destination

  • want to feel move alive, free, sensual and playful

  • identify as Highly Sensitive and/or empathic and find it hard to realize as a gift rather than burden

I work well with clients who…

What is it like to work together?

Step 1

Fill out the contact form. Tell me about you and what you need help with.

Step 2

We will schedule a free, no obligation 15-minute intro call where I can answer your questions and share more about my services.

Step 3

Decide if working together is right for you and schedule your first session!

Why All Of You?

We all need a place where we can be seen and heard and where our deepest pain, desires and hopes can be treated as sacred. I provide a space where all of your feelings and all of your parts are welcome. I am most deeply passionate about meeting others where they are and helping them discover and nurture their authentic selves. Together, we can pave the way for deep, meaningful connection with yourself, with others and with the universe.

My approach is…

  • I strive to understand your perspective and emotions from your point of view, deeply connecting with your experiences. My intention is to foster a powerful emotional connection in the room, ensuring that you feel genuinely heard and supported throughout our sessions.

  • I bring an intuitive sense to our sessions, allowing me to understand underlying issues that may not be immediately apparent. Trusting my intuition enables me to offer interventions and support that feel naturally aligned with your personal growth journey.

  • Incorporating somatic practices into therapy allows us to connect the mind and body, recognizing that physical sensations and bodily experiences are integral to emotional healing. We will explore how your body holds and expresses emotions and incorporate that knowledge in the process of healing and growth.

  • My practice is inclusive, welcoming individuals from all backgrounds, identities, and experiences. I am committed to creating an environment that respects and celebrates diversity, ensuring that everyone feels valued and understood. Inclusivity is a cornerstone of my approach, fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance.

  • Understanding your attachment patterns helps us to explore how early relationships influence your current behavior and emotional responses. We intentionally focus on building secure and healthy relationships, both in the therapeutic setting and in your broader life.

  • My trauma-informed approach ensures that we work together in a way that acknowledges and respects the impact of trauma on your life. I create a safe and supportive environment where you can process traumatic experiences without re-traumatization, using strategies that emphasize empowerment, trust, and safety.

Training and Education

Education

Masters of Social Work (University of Hawaii at Manoa, 2007)

Training and Certifications

  • SoulCollage® Facilitator training (2012)

  • SoulCollage® and Somatic Experiencing training (2013)

  • Tending the Feminine Psyche retreat & training with Anita Johnston PhD (2014)

  • Healing the Ancestral Line SoulCollage® workshop with Mariabruna Sirabella (2014)

  • Somatic Experiencing workshop, healing, trauma, shame, and relationships with Brad Kammer (2015)

  • IFS level 1 training with Barb Cargill and Mona Barbera (2016)

  • Fire and Water: The Irreconcilable Couple retreat with Mariabruna Sirabella (2016)

  • Eagala equine assisted therapy certification training (2016)

  • IFS Continuity program: Exploring Neuroscience, Intimacy From the Inside Out, The Voices of Addiction (2017)

  • Deep Healing of Exiles retreat with Richard Schwartz, PhD (2018 and 2019)

  • IFS level 2 training: Trauma and Neuroscience with Frank Anderson, MD (2019)

  • Somatic IFS retreat with Susan McConnell (2020)

  • A Soulful Warrior's Six Session Journey to Transformation Through AEDP training with Jerry Lamagna (2021)

  • Somatica Sex and Relationship Coaching training (2022)

  • Somatica Immersion training (2023)

  • AEDP Immersion training with Diana Fosha, PhD (2024)

  • AEDP-Informed Experiential Psilocybin Assisted Therapy training (2024)

I am here to join you on the journey to transformation and wholeness. Let’s connect today!